Yes I have read that thread....It has helped me alot...I have met a few of the AA members and club members of my A's and am able to talk to them..they swear that he has not cheated, that most men are too druged for it to work....I am still waiting for the story of rehab and what happen there..so i will still be snopping at everything...not trusting until I can get this out of my head...i want my marrage to work..I have seen the changes through out the year some good some bad...he is not working his steps and his new sponser is a leach...but with the help of other A's that I know that have been sober for 22 yrs or more they are spending more time with him....but only time will tell...I know this is hard for you...I was told to wait a year to make a discision and I am just about there..my prayers are with you huggsss