For me, I find that self-esteem/self-worth is inextricably linked with self-trust. Much like we are always saying to look at the A's actions not his words, I find the same to be true of myself. I might believe and say I love myself, but my actions need to be in line with that thinking for it to count for squat. I earn my self-trust by:
- enforcing my boundaries (lets me know I am "safe" with me)
- taking good care of myself: physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, environmentally, and spiritually (lets me know I will be "good" to me)
- honoring my commitments to myself (lets me know I can rely on me)
It's funny, I could be so mad at my ex for not doing these things for me, but not at myself for often failing to do them. What madness!!
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