Originally Posted by
outtolunch 
Is this the same guy who stole money and your car?
Is this the same guy that you got a restraining order on?
Is this the same guy who told you lies to cover up lies?
Is this the same guy you have been sending money, food and boots to?
Is this the same guy who has an ex with another child he he not supporting who also had/ has some sort of relationship with a girl he met in rehab?
And now he's back in jail and probably feeling a little blue cause he's not the kind of guy who does well facing the consequeunces of his choices and behavior.
Relapse is a part of addiction, not recovery. He's not done with drugs, yet.
Going to see him in jail has a lot more to do with you, and your own needs than it has anything to do with him. You deserve to treat yourself better than you have been doing.
Thank you for your post. Your 100% right and I am glad you put it down like that for me. Yes, I deserve to stay home and rest. Yes, part of me wants to see him and make sure he's ok and to cheer him up and see his face and talk to him...but that's not the right decision and it will most likely cause more harm than good.