Originally Posted by
rmm 
I just wonder if I'm making more of all of this than is necessary. Maybe it's not so bad and I'm just expecting something unreasonable?
That's how I keep feeling too. I listen to friends talk about their husbands and they all moan about aspects of them. No-one's perfect. BUT I never bring up my hubands drinking in these coversations (usually complain about his failure to complete DIY jobs!). It's too "big" a problem - too shameful, not just a subject for a chat but something to be "dealt with". IF you see what I mean.
I think we both know what we're wanting is not unreasonable. It's easier to see when you're talking about someone else's problem. I keep thinking that I would be devastated to think of one of my daughters ending up in this sort of relationship.