Just to clarify-- I wouldn't leave to try to force his hand to do something I want him to do. I am questioning whether to stay or leave because I am not sure that I have enough strength to stay. I can't just stop trying to "fix" him and I feel like as long as I am here with him that's an impossible battle within myself. I think that I might need to be separate from him in order to stop trying to control what he does or doesn't do. It is eating away at me to try and say nothing, to try and be happy in a lonely marriage and I don't really see the point in staying simply to stay. Right now I am staying because I am afraid of the uncertainty of what leaving means.