Ceridwen

I say "musical differences" with a wry smile. sort of lets them know its none of their business.

Before I could initiate a seperation I had to allow myself to act for my own good. I, in all honesty never wanted to do it for his good, to allow him space etc, to give him time to think, but I felt that I was only allowed to make a decision of this magnitude if it were for the benefit of others, for their own good. It seemed unbeleivably selfish to do what was best for me, especially if others were hurt.

But a counsellor helped me learn that I am important, I am allowed to be happy, and happy right now. I don't have to give one* more last chance, I can do what is best for me.

Decisions became lots less complicated when I concentrated on what was best for myself and the children and stopped making decisions based soley on my predictions of their possible effect on a grown adult's choices and feelings and behaviour.

what do you think would be best for you


*(to the power infinity)