Hi rmm,
It seems to me that for as long as he knows I am here, there's no real incentive to do the hard, soul searching work that he needs to
If I make any decision with an agenda that it will affect someone else's recovery- then I am expecting an outcome that is unrealistic.
how do i explain how a non-violent, financially supportive, responsible man is someone i am leaving?
Remove the alcohol from the equation, and ask yourself the same question; and furthermore- why would you need to explain it to anyone? It's your life and your decision, not anyone else's.