At one time in my life, my bar of standards with my EXAH was so low you couldn't limbo under it. That carried well over into my own recovery from drugs/alcohol and more relationships after that marriage.
Today I'm no longer willing to compromise my beliefs and values. To put it simply, I have zero tolerance for BS, and I don't care what the other party offers as an explanation.
Step 3 isn't a passive, 'sit back and accept whatever is thrown at me' kind of step for me.
Step 3 allows me to recognize that small quiet voice within that lets me know when my boundaries have been clearly crossed, and I can take corrective action on my part.
