Concernedgf,
All of the responses you got are really amazing and helpful. I, myself, am an addict and have also dated my fair share of them and it's tough work - I honestly couldn't imagine dating one if I was a "normie!"
Your boyfriend's DOC is the same of mine and I cannot tell you how difficult it is to get off of them! Not only do you get physically sick when you quit, but you get mentally different - depressed, anxious, overall uncomfortable and negative. I ended up getting clean "alone" - I made a lot of great friends in my first stab and worked on old friendships and relationships, but I was still going at this whole sobriety deal alone while starting as a Freshman at college - no easy task really. You sound very loving but honestly, all your "support" is enabling him. He's taking your money and wasting your time.
When in a relationship with an addict, or any man really, you must ask yourself the following questions:
* what am I getting out of this relationship?
* what does my boyfriend/girlfriend do to help me?
* am I always feel tired/drained/used by my boyfriend/girlfriend?
Addicts often share the following personality traits: selfish, overly sensitive, moody, manipulative, and one-track-minded. Now, of course many addicts are lovely people without the influence of substances, but substances usually form these characteristics and inprint themselves on the addict. I'm sure you're boyfriend is a nice guy, and it's obvious you care a great deal about him, but you are young and honestly deserve someone who gets your needs met too.
I hope I helped and please feel free to private message me and talk some time!
hugs & support,
Rachel
p.s. I'm 19 too =]