Thank you.
I think i know all this, i just need to be told. Reading the responses make me sick to my stomach, but almost half smile at the same time. idunno why. Maybe its relief. To hear thoughts i have driven myself crazy over being said by other people. who very possibly have more experience with this than i.
I also think this is a great place to observe "tough love". All the responses have been pretty blunt, and sometimes hard to hear, but all are helpful, and true and in my best interest. I need to learn how to do that with him. Be assertive. So thank you. very much.