baldjim- is there something you'd recommend i could do differently to help/support my husband based on your experience? i know in the moment, that my getting frustrated does nothing to help either of us but i also feel like saying nothing just tells him that what is happening is okay... i feel like i am walking a tightrope with no end in sight and there's no "right" way to reach the end in one piece... so, any perspective you have as someone who has been in the place my husband is currently in, might help me a lot....