I guess I should have asked some questions... that's what I really needed -- I just got on a vent and lost track...
So, does it sound like my husband is an alcoholic? My association with alcoholism is someone like my husbands father-- he sits and drinks from a vodka bottle, passes out in a chair, falls down etc... My husband is very functional so it is hard to think he is an alcoholic.
Are the behaviors he's displaying (blaming me, not wanting to hear my feelings, making excuses for his drinking) things that are common for somone with a drinking problem?
I guess I don't know if maybe he is right and the problem is me. Or, maybe the problem is "us" and the drinking is just a side effect.
I am very confused.