I feel for you Jen. Time to fix yourself a nice cup pof tea, hug your husband and kids, pets if you have any. Then go out and buy yourself a steamy romance novel!!! Go see a movie!! Take a hike with your family (and dont discuss her). My ASIL is still in jail, I see my bro almost every day as he works with me in our business now. We talk all the time, but I never mention her and he doesnt either. We're done with the drama. This site and Nar-Anon have really shown me how to stand up for myself - I used to 'lend' her money because I was worried about my nephew. Now she has steady income from an inheritance and if she blows it and runs out before the next check its not my problem. Hang in there....