Hi Waterman! welcome to SR. My confidence seemed to go down the drain with the alcohol leaving my body as well. Now, nearly 2 years later I realize that I was just scared of life w/o my wine. The first year involves lots of soul searching and sometime in that first year I woke up 1 day and I had more confidence in myself than I'd ever imagined, if I could quit the booze I could and can do anything! It's wonderful that you have rediscovered God, I for one could not have done any of this w/o my faith and the encouragement I get from reading the bible. I agree with the others that you should try and get your wife to go to al-anon but if not well you should be doing this for YOU so take care of you.