Joedris I was raised down in the Northern neck right on the Corrotoman river, the only real branch of the Rappahanock. I have pulled my share of pots and caught a ton of soft crabs poling a skiff, I love the water but will be the first to admit that being a waterman is way to much like work for me! LOL
Waterman as a few others suggested, it may be a very good idea for your wife to attend Alanon meetings, the spouses, family & friends need support and the guidance of others who have dealt with us alkies. Check out AA, trust me you are not alone.