Mark, very useful thoughts! I told her that I'll keep the focus on my recovery. Fortunately, she is fine with my meetings most of the time. She sees them as "medicine" much as if I were on chemo for cancer. She seems a bit surprised when I talk about folks with 20+ years still going to meetings, but I think she's okay with that.
I agree with your perspective on cleaning up my own stuff, and letting the other things fall into place in their own time. She put up with a lot.
And, like you, I've been getting some very high-quality advice (including about accountants and tax attorneys) from other AAs.
Have a great weekend, Nick