i became willing to LET GO of my resentments once i indentified how they were causing harm to me. My resentments were the excuses i used to stay in the past instead of living in the here and now. In surendering my will and my life to the care of God (as i understand him), i must relate to reality as it takes place or go back to using. That is part of the reason Step Three precedes Step Four. Take it easy and ask for help from the God of your understanding.