Mentallyexh, the author has a website at gettingthemsober.com I love her because she gets it and she knows that you have been abused, so she doesn't further the abuse by asking you what your part in it is. She claims that most of the counsellors do that because they really don't understand the disease, or they have unresolved feelings about their own codependency.
Kinda stings when you have been in a whirlwind and are coming out of it showing every sign of post traumatic stress and then somebody tells you to figure out your part in it. My latest response was, I was in the wrong city at the wrong time and I met him.