covington

I love all three of these lists.

Brilliant.

One other bit of warped logic I stumbled upon during my breakup I wanted to add to the lists . . .

It worked for my mother and my sister to set boundaries, it should work for me!

Talking to my mother last week: that's what I did with your father, I told him he would have to quit drinking if he wanted to stay around and watch you guys grow up. He quit when you were five.

Talking to my sister last week: that's what I did with Mark, he went to a conference where he was the keynote speaker and did a bunch of coke and didn't even do his presentation. I changed all the locks and I told him, I don't care what's broken inside you, you're not coming back until you fix it! He's been going to therapy three times a week since then.

Subtext: If he doesn't quit, it means I'm not worth the effort it would take him, and everyone will know. UGH.

I'm not too worried about it though, honestly. I'd rather be with someone who doesn't feel like I'm trying to fix them all the time.