Originally Posted by
anvilhead 
IMHO, it depends on whether the codependency is recognized and being worked on, or whether it is left rampant and untreated. AND it is essential to have a healthy enough partner that doesn't buy into the codie crap.
by someone who doesnt buy into the codie crap do you mean someone who doesnt take advantage of someone who thinks they need them and wants to take care of them?