Originally Posted by
LaTeeDa 
Call it codependency, call it self-protection, call it whatever you want. Is the situation healthy? Is it they way you want your life to be? Is it what you want in a life partner? If what you have and what you want do not line up, what are you going to do about it? He is living life the way he wants to. Are you?
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This so hits home. I'm starting to see this. He can chose to drink and he is an adult. I can't control it and I can't stop it. I think I'm seeing this now, but believe me it has taken me a lot to get there. Crazy enough, it was him drinking after being in a rehab for 30 days. I kept thinking, "How can you possibly buy beer after we have spent so much money on rehab?" "He has to know not to."
So, no I am not living the life I want. I'm learning (very slowly it seems) what I did wrong.