Well, I guess if you need it to make a difference, then so be it. Codependency, for me, was just a convenient label to identify what was wrong in my life. I don't really feel the need to analyze this behavior or that behavior and decide one is codependent and another is not.
Personally, I believe that the society we live in is highly dysfunctional. Codependence, addiction, selfishness, cruelty, irresponsibility, greed, judgement (I could go on and on) are all obstacles that prevent individuals from living their best life. I am more interested in living my best life than defining the correct title for my obstacles.
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