Originally Posted by
Still Waters 
Is it codependency when you do it to avoid the rest of the family suffering more? Bottom line is though - the behavior is likely to continue.
It doesn't matter. What matters is the bigger picture. Marriage isn't about protecting the family from suffering at the hands of one of the partners. At least not for me. Not any more.
Call it codependency, call it self-protection, call it whatever you want. Is the situation healthy? Is it they way you want your life to be? Is it what you want in a life partner? If what you have and what you want do not line up, what are you going to do about it? He is living life the way he wants to. Are you?
As I said before, it's not about picking apart one action from another. It's about looking at the big picture. What do you want your life to look like?
L