Thanks for the clarification...I was under the impression that YOU personally, hired the lawyer FOR him instead of him doing it himself. That is where I was coming from with my response.
I am so sorry you are going through this and yes, it can be a real eye-opener. The most important thing for you to do is protect yourself and your children in all ways, including financially. It may be a community property state, but that's no reason why you can't have funds of your own to take care of your necessary household expenses while he is going through these issues. (((HUGS)))