Is hiring a lawyer for his DUI being codependent?
I've been reading about boundaries and in particular, the law of reaping and sowing. That there need to be consequences to one's actions and if codependents step in, there are never consequences.
However, I'm confused when it comes to when you are married. Was hiring an atty codependent? If we didn't then he would have gone to jail for 4x as long which would have affected his pay and ultimately me and the kids.
He has an atty for both DUIs. Honestly, I regret doing it for the 2nd one, but as I said above, how do you determine what you are doing is best for you and your kids in re: money versus codependent.
So assuming there is more legal trouble, as a wife, do you refuse to get him legal help?