Oh (((((Mambo))))) he may be going to AA, he may be going to Church with his family, but........................................ what you are hearing is STILL MANIPULATION. OH and QUACKING.
You have no reason to feel guilty (even though I know, I've been there too), you just have to get it to your heart that these are the CONSEQUENCES of HIS ACTIONS and if he stays in recovery, HONESTLY working on himself, he will come to realize it.
As to going no contact, if that will give you a little peace and serenity, then so be it for now.
His ACTIONS, will show you when he is finally 'grasping' what recovery is about, and that includes NOT MANIPULATING to get what he wants.
Please continue with your therapist, and please go slow with your new gentleman friend as you are still on the rebound.
Love and hugs,