Originally Posted by
dixied 
By not contacting him sometimes I see that as him perceiving I am not interested and that puts guilt on me pretty heavily.
dixied
I know what you mean...
I try to use the same rule of thumb that I would use with any other family member or friend...I call and say hello when I am thinking of them and feel like reaching out...
I don't let myself ask questions every time I call and I try to wait until he volunteers info and then ask one (or two tops!) follow-up questions