Ago, if you go back and re read your posts, it seems to me like you weren't always in such a good place, and were quite a mess at one point yourself over a relationship. I hope that one of the "old timers" showed you some compassion and wern't so judgemental when you came to the boards or F2F for help.
I absolutely was a mess when I got here, thank God I got the help and support I did.
What helped me was people here and at F2f being blunt and telling me the truth.
What I write
IS my experience, I am sorry you see it as judgmental.