Welcome to SR!!
I'm a recovering addict (crack) AND a recovering codie (codependent). For me, the 2 are greatly intertwined...I would get so stressed about not being able to fix someone else or control a situation with a friend or boyfriend, that after years of doing that I wanted to get numb.
That being said, the only person who can do anything about his problems is HIM. You can only work on you. I also have loved ones who are addicts, and being on THIS side of the fence is quite a bit different.
I'm glad you're here. I hope you keep reading and posting. Weekends are usually a little bit slower, but there are some great and supportive people with a lot of ES&H (experience, strength and hope).
Hugs and prayers!
Amy