Originally Posted by
livnfrme 
I got every excuse in the book for why our son is faltering in school etc. I told him that if he couldn't do it right now as his program is taking too much time away from every day life all he has to do is let me know and I will care for our son. The teacher even notices from week to week who has him. I am not just seeing things that are not there.
It sounds to me like the current arrangement of him having your son every other week is doing a lot of damage to your son.
I'm not sure how having a utility such as gas shut off and not being able to bathe him constitutes being a responsible parent.
Is this a legal custody agreement the two of you have?
I wouldn't hesitate for a moment to put a screeching halt to the current visitation if it were my child.