((((wooforever))))
I am in kinda the same place as you. I do not have a child with him so that is different. I let my guy come back to get his things he just got out of jail. He is still here but the door to my heart is closed to him. I do not engage him in any way and he has a definite departure date. People are helping him pack. He has no doubt that he is out of here.
I feel very guilty. The only "help" he is getting is to get out. He has a lot of "stuff".
I feel like an actor shedding a role. I no longer take his cues. Most likely he will find another to co star in his drama.