Thread: AH is getting manipulative
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Old 05-28-2009, 08:03 PM
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Originally Posted by foggy View Post
I'm not sure where my energy would go if it weren't for this neverending soap opera.
Hey foggy, think of it more like a parasitic or tumourous growth (whichever least offends and works best for you). Your body will put a lot of energy into growing/maintaining/isolating it, even though the growth is not good for it, but without ever actually cutting it off. If that growth wasn't there, where would that energy be going? Right back into the basic maintenance of the rest of your body.

Having this neverending soap opera isn't much different. It's parasitizing your emotional well-being, using up energy and resources that would otherwise go into the basic repair and maintenance of you emotionally, and it will persist until you're ready and committed to take action against it.

How much more should your children have to take?
This is worth re-stating. Sacrificing yourself is NOT protecting your kids. It's transforming the one reliable parent they have into a stressed, emotionally-unavailable adult. Alcoholism is particularly devastating because it affects everyone in the family, even those who are not drinking. Hang in there, foggy, and give some thought to the great advice already posted.
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