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Old 05-23-2009, 09:08 AM
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I think atalose "nailed it"

All the information you need is in that post, pay close enough attention and you can avoid that future and world of hurt, confusion and pain that entails.

Pay attention to his actions, not his words

His actions are "he hangs out in bars, realizes he has a problem, and would like to quit drinking, but truthfully hasn't"

We call this "he wants to want to stop drinking"

So instead of "dating a recovering alcoholic" maybe "label" this as "dating an alcoholic that is talking about trying to recover" and then read the stickies and others stories here on this forum and educate yourself about alcoholism, as opposed to "recovery from alcoholism" because this is what this man is, an alcoholic, not a "recovering alcoholic"

After a year or two you can maybe think about changing that "label" to alcoholic in recovery, IF he addresses the underlying causes. Drinking is actually just a symptom of "alcoholism" strangely enough.

I am a sober alcoholic by the way.
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