Couldn't you just call and ask what the kiddos involvment would entail?
I highly doubt they will be involved in any way other than having an opportunity to give their mom some hugs and kisses that they ALL need from each other.
And yeah, I doubt what they're going to go through is nothing compared to what they have before. Glad you're staying sober too, I can't imagine them having one sober parent in treatment, and one still drunk parent at home.
So far so good it seems, and you're right, if you're not an alcoholic as defined by the Big Book (or otherwise really..), drinking or not drinking really shouldn't take any thought. Non-alcoholics can decide to never have a drink again, and honestly not give a sh** about it for the rest of their days.. and it sounds like you're not having any thoughts of it or anything, and that's great!
I think..