Originally Posted by
anvilhead 
i guess i'm trying to say that contemplating separation is NOT the end of the world. you aren't putting him in front of the firing squad, you arent' stamping FAILURE on your forehead, you're just moving along life's path.......to do any different WOULD be the tragedy......
First off, I am sorry to hear about the cancer.
It sounds like you and your daughter continue to honor his spirit.
I appreciate hearing your story.
My therapist told me the exact same thing. That we will remain a family, we will both continue to be parents to these beautiful kids.
Like with your situation, I feel that it would be a benefit to my boys if we separated. They absorb all our tension and unhappiness.
I've noticed, when I'm alone with them, we have this wonderful energy together. We are not hindered by AH's angry stares or brooding. There is peace and freedom.
Ug. I'm just remembering...
My bio father blamed me for his divorce when I was 13. He said "you and your mother want to split up the family". As if he had nothing to do w/ it.
Wow - now I'm hearing the same thing from AH.
yikes.