Originally Posted by
Still Waters 
So...he's an alcoholic but all your current problems are you? What about past problems?
Yes, all me. Because
I am the one who doesn't want to continue couples counseling.
I am the one who "shuts him out".
I am the one who is never satisfied.
All words from AH.
Past problems, AH seems to recognize his part. Yet, I can't count how many times I heard that he acted such and such a way and checked out w/ alcohol because I "rejected" him.
He's sort of like, "I stopped drinking, everything is fixed, let's just learn how to communicate now"