Well venting helps... so there is room for some discussion and perhaps something may sting, another perspective will be considered... hopefully.
Kerrys we are all rooting for YOU, please do not feel attacked. Its just that many of us KNOW THE SENSATION REALLY WELL and now that we are choosing healthier people around us, we cannot understand what was so appealing in the first place of a man that behaves that way (man? honestly he sounds like a kid.)