RobinsFly

Hi again,
I think I posted something like this a while back. It still plagues me.

AH has been sober for almost one year. He chose not to do AA, support groups, or have a sponsor. He did some counseling, but not 'addictions' work.

Earlier this year I was feeling hopeful. Like we might make it.
Then, his old tendency to blame me for his feelings started up again. As did passive-aggressive behaviors. I totally lost it.

I entered psychotherapy recently, and now I'm in the thick of my own recovery process. I'm finding I have absolutely NO tolerance for this blaming behavior. Or, his constant looking to me for support and validation. I have nothing to give him right now.
But he still is not interested in doing his own "work". AH wants to continue couples counseling - but this is fruitless because we need the SPACE to do our own work, first!

I know I cannot control his recovery process.....but how can a relationship survive if only one person seeks recovery from codependency???

I'm really troubled by this.