Dothi hit the nail on the head. You can control your actions, you can protect your own sanity. You cannot control your mother and you sure as h*** can't make her happy.
With any A it is a legitimate question to ask if they ever want to really be happy. Unhappiness = reason to drink.
What GingerM said. When an alcoholic is forced to face the consequences of their own actions, yes, their pain and confusion is generally profound. What has worked for them in the past suddenly has not worked for them now.
Actually, this is the best thing you CAN do for her. Stop enabling her addictive behavior. The A has to realize that they are the source of their own pain.
Spring is a time of growth (flowers, fertility, planting new seeds). It sounds like your mom could use some growth - there is your mother's day gift.
Ok - that was a lame analogy but the best I can do while writing a test so ******g late at night.
