I also agree. Let this be HER crisis.
When I was arrested, I used a public defender. I kept running back to the ABF, who is perfectly content to smoke crack for the rest of his life. It wasn't until I had enough of the consequences of my actions, that I was able to chose recovery and walk away from the ABF and make him an XABF. Had anyone made it easier for me, I'd probably still be using.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy