First it's looking to "prove" that there drinking...to show it to them...and as mentioned you get the "how did that get there?" or the "where did you find that"?? After awhile, I gave up "looking", they were there. I'd open a cupboard to get the coffee pot and there was a mini bottle. THen it turns into leaving the house to go to a "meeting". Only she comes back home 45' later and says no one showed up at the meeting!! That turns into "well you won't let me drink at home!" on and on......and on....
"SERENITY NOW....SERENITY NOW......."