I would suggest you go to see a doctor and if he suggests a shrink then at least you have someone to start with. It sounds like you are in a lot of psychological pain and rather than toughing it out and risking it becoming too much I would seek help for that if I were in your shoes. But only you know how intense it is for you.
If you want to try some natural things you could go to see a natural therapist as well as your doctor.
I took st johns wort to help with the depression side of things - its worked really well for me. Just keep in mind that you cannot take that and pharmaceutical anti-depressants at the same time so if you then decide to see a shrink you will have to wait a week (at least) to let the SJW leave your system before starting what he prescribes. B vitamins are really important for energy production, nervous system function and can be depleted in alcoholics.
take care!
