Originally Posted by
anvilhead 
t going solo allows him to speak freely without needing to filter anything with you there.....
I went to some meetings with my AH for awhile, then I began to feel like he needed to be there on his own. I wanted him to be able to share without worrying about me and what I might think. I think it may have even made it impossible for him to share honestly if I was there. Sharing is important for recovery.
I believe there is always hope, but I've also learned that nothing I do or say will make my AH stay clean. Only he can decide what choices he will make.
I find Al-anon helpful. Have you tried meetings for yourself?