Originally Posted by
sailorjohn 
JMO, I think the more we practice the first step and learn how to accept and detach, the less disturbing the behavior of others will become to us.
Have been struggling with this myself, saying the first step like a chant, it's been helpful.
Thanks sailorjohn! It isn't even the alcoholic behavior that is disturbing, it is my Mom's behavior. Again, that is why I used the "Swept Under Carpet" title, almost like the family has to hide this dirty secret so nobody finds out. Also, like AS just turned off the switch and she is swell and Mom will keep an eye on her to keep her in check. I just know this isn't going to work and everyone is going to get hurt again.