Hi,
I totally relate to the obsessing thing. I have been told that just the fact that I am always thinking about drinking and "how can I ever have fun again without booze" is an indicator that I have a problem with alcohol. "Normal" drinkers don't obsess about booze. That, in itself, is reason enough for me to know I have a problem. Alcoholism is very "cunning and baffling" and will always try to lure you back. It is relentless.