Like flutter said above, drinking in response to the actions/words of others is not putting them first. It's putting me first. Instead of dealing with these situations like a responsible adult (How can I be helpful? If I can't be helpful, how can I detach?), I'll just drink and make their stuff all about me. I was the queen of, "Look what YOU made ME do."
Meetings, sponsor, steps = freedom.
Peace & Love,
Sugah