at least i've made one decision
against my better judgement, and advise from those who care about me- 50 hours after last hearing from AH- I decided to call him- I was tired of not sleeping, wondering. Got his VM and said call me it is important.
He calls back in a few minutes- he said, "what did you want- wht is so important" I told him I was just seeing if he was alive-- he told me I had done nothing wrong- (duh) and that he lost his job andjust had nothing to give me. I told him I loved him but would not be a part of his maddness anymore.
So long story short- even though I can't bring myself to chg the locks- I am taking-- ALL of our money out of our joint accts today and putting them in another bank- at least I can do that- no $ fromme ANYMORE!!!! I guess I have nothing to give him either.