Originally Posted by
hapapinoy 
The concern I have is that the counselor did say that my wife resents my stand on her drinking and feels it is a "control" issue. I don't want to be the policeman. I don't want to "control" her drinking. I want her to stop her drinking of her own volition; I don't think it works otherwise.
Of course she resents it because you have set a boundary of what you will/won't accept, and that's thrown a monkey wrench in her doing what she's been doing for years, no?
My brother and his wife started out in marriage counseling. She walked out and he now goes by himself. Makes a lot of sense, doesn't it? He's miserable, and she is not willing to make a collaborative effort in the marriage that has been in trouble for years.
I'd rather take a poke in the eye than live like that.
