Originally Posted by
MissFixit 
Hi Hap,
I hope for your sake and the welfare of your kids that you are chosing wisely (I mean that sincerely). They are children and SHE is an adult capable of caring for herself, they are not.
Miss
Well...
This is the second marriage for us both.
My high-school aged kids live with their mother. They see me every other weekend and half the summer.
There's never been a scene with my wife in front of the kids. Her periodic binges occurred when they weren't around.
My wife's kids are grown men in their late 20s living in another state. From what I hear, their dad was a big daily drinker and got violent with their mom when drunk. That's why she left him.