Thank you all for your helpful and thoughtful posts.
I like the one about the addict voice in my head called the General.
Yes, I am aware that's who's causing these thoughts, but I've also been on the other side too.
We hang with our neighbors a lot and they all drink but one, who's in AA. He's been sober for years and years. We didn't know him when he wasn't.
Anyway, I've heard comments made about him behind his back from said neighbors, like "why doesn't he just have a drink already" and stuff like that.
He does seem to stick out from everyone else. It shouldn't make a diff, but apparently it does.
My family are the worst enablers, they all drink. We're Polish.
It bothers them if someone at the party who usually drinks, isn't.
That's not a big deal, just annoying.
My husband drinks and all his friends are big drinkers.
My husband would be alright with me not drinking, but that'd be another thing we don't have in common.
My girlfriends would be supportive of me not drinking, as long as it doesn't interfere with their drinking and good time.
There just seems to be a big line between drinkers and non-drinkers, like there's a big line between smokers and non-smokers.
Too bad it can't be like the diff between coffee drinkers and non-coffee drinkers, that doesn't seem to matter too much.
Thanks again.